Recently I’ve come to believe very strongly that there is no such thing as bad people. Immediately, you may think of the many terrible things you have witnessed some people do. I understand, and I don’t disagree that there is some terrible actions performed daily by the minute, but are they really bad people? Let’s explore this idea.
I came to the conclusion in my beliefs that there is no such thing as bad people; just lost, confused, and misunderstood souls. I want to dive deeper and give some perspective on how this could make sense.
I recently had an experience where I overheard a girl make negative and hurtful comments to her friend about my shirt. I was upset by her remarks and began to feel a bit self-conscious. I wondered to myself how someone could be so boldly offensive and hurtful. There had to be a reason, so I confronted her passively, and asked her why she said that. She answered, ”I’m kind of an A**Hole.” I immediately realized that it had nothing to do with my shirt but it was about her and this façade covering up her inner turmoil. I was mind-blown and I proceed to search for a deeper answer. I asked her why she said that about her self, because I couldn’t see why anyone would identify himself or herself that way. Her answer to me was, that her family made her that way and that’s how she was raised. I felt a surprisingly strong rush of compassion. I looked her in the eyes, and said, “It’s ok. I understand you. You didn’t mean to hurt my feelings.” She got this look on her face, which started with shock and manifested itself into heavy emotion. It looked as if she was about to burst into tears.
What that experience taught me is that people do, say, and act upon certain things based on many different reasons. It is simply a long chain of cause and effect. We all know that the world can be a tough and scary place. We all go through experiences that shake our souls and cause spiritual bruising. As humans, we are inevitably emotional creatures and most of our actions are based upon impulse. When we are hungry, we eat. When we are tired, we sleep. This is the way humans operate and unless there is a high level of consciousness established within the person, it is very hard to break out of these impulsive habits.
The main reason I wrote this article is to help protect your soul a bit and understand that sometimes people do things to us without wanting it. They just don’t know any better. We love to take things personal but most of the time it isn’t, we were just caught in the crossfire of a disastrous domino effect. Jesus himself seemed to believe this. According to the holy book, He called out to God while on the cross saying, “Forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” I guess forgiveness can serve as a bulletproof vest.
Written by: Camilo Latorre